Protecting Your Children From an Abusive Parent in Tennessee

Divorce can be a challenging situation when there are children involved. There is something that can make matters even more complicated: domestic violence and abuse. Domestic violence is not just physical. It can take on many forms and can be verbal, sexual, or financial in nature. An abuser may not beat their spouse or child, but maybe they are controlling or verbally abusive, calling them names.

Infants, toddlers, and preschoolers are unable to protect themselves. Still, this trauma affects them, often showing up as pain, illness, anxiety, and depression. Children who are exposed to tension, yelling, and abuse may find it difficult to soothe and have attachment issues. They may have had disturbed relationships for years.

To prevent these effects, parents may wonder what they can do to protect their children from an abusive parent. Here are some tips to keep in mind.

Legal Steps to Keep Children Safe From Abuse

If you are pursuing a protective order against your abuser, ask the court to include your child as well. Whether this is allowed depends on your state’s laws. Some states let you include your child in your own order, while others may require a separate one. The level of proof needed also varies; it’s usually easier to get a temporary order, but a permanent one may require more substantial evidence showing your child is at risk.

Inform Trusted Adults

It is essential to strike a balance. You do not want to destroy your ex’s reputation, but you do need to protect your child. Let trusted adults in your child’s life — like pediatricians, daycare staff, and family members — know they need to be vigilant. Ask them to watch for signs of abuse or distress and to alert you or contact Child Protective Services (CPS) if they see anything concerning.

Document Everything

Keep detailed records of any incidents. Maintain a journal in a secure location, and save photos of bruises, damaged property, or anything else that shows signs of abuse. Preserve any threatening messages that admit to abusive behavior. If it is safe, message a trusted person when something happens and ask them to store the message — these will have a time and date stamp. You can also use apps and digital tools explicitly designed to help document abuse.

Act Quickly if Your Child Is in Immediate Danger

If your child is being hit, shaken, or given medication to force sleep, they are in immediate danger. Contact emergency services, CPS, or a domestic violence advocate right away so you can both get the help you both need.

Contact Us Today

Domestic violence and abuse happen in many households, and children are often victims. If this is the case for you, it’s essential to involve a lawyer to help you understand the resources available to you.

Murfreesboro family law attorney David L. Scott can help guide you through sensitive legal matters. We understand the laws and will work to protect you and your child. Schedule a consultation today. Contact us via (615) 896-7656 or online here.